I often come hear people saying “my relationship status is COMPLICATED”. I DO Interact with them and try to know when relationship can sometimes be extremely complicated and often I realized that to build and maintain Quality relationship requires few things which we often fail to follow.
How often do we understand that it’s important we have to build trust, remain consistent and become a person who is reliable in every situation?
Mutual respect is a thing we never bother about. I often hear people come to me saying “it was alright in the beginning. We respected each other’s view and differences also. But its 2-3 month and its not the same…”
Well I say its just2-3 months and if people are finding hard to respect the uniqueness of an individual which would make them feel very valuable and important then how about being with them for a lifetime.??
Recently I read an article which says people DO NOT communicate about important issues in their relationships and let the problem stack up.
Also we fail to listen attentively, calmly, quietly when the other person is sharing the emotions.
But when you do listen, it sends them a signal that u respect the other person’s emotions and deepen the level of trust. That’s what I feel
Recently I heard from my a good friend of mine who shares that he lacks care from his partner.
But that’s the greatest gift u can give to ur partner-THE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE.
I know we have also always accustomed to criticizing comparing and complaining. But if we can be people builder rather than people-basher life would much more wonderful.
I have read somewhere and I follow the principle which says “catch them doing right” (them may refer to your teammate, your partner, your friend, child)
Finally I would say be helpful. Your willingness to step in and do little things to decrease the burden felt by ur family is always appreciated and respected. Share , contribute and help each other.
People can share their views on they have built successful human relationship
i see 2 categories of people every day .
a)people who see world filled with opportunities and possibilities. they believe every process they go through is designed to make their life successfull . their approach towards work,relationships are good and optimistic and they are seldom disappointed
b)other set of people has a different approach. they keeping blaming their fate for all the odds keep making mistakes and never learn from it. they also do not have mind of their own;meaning they are highly dependent on others in decision making.and 70% of decision they take is wrong.
infact the so called winners do mistakes in their lives. but they accept it, use their mistakes to improve the quality of their thinking and learn from it. and 2nd category of people DONOT do that.
whenever things doesnt go in an intended way for me i donot react immediately.relax for a moment and say to myself “that’s good” because i believe difficulties come to instruct more than to obstruct. every difficulty i have faced has made me think in a different dimension to overcome and i have been learning and growing.
in both Professional and personal life these below steps can be taken to deal with mistakes.
a) wat we can do is identify and write down the mistakes
b)find causes of it as how and why did it happen what are the critical variables involved in it.
c) take a decision.
d)delegate the responsibility to set of people
well we all know this but still dont do it.
I read a blog yesterday which emphasized on the people management and it all revolved around handling people who are little aggressive enough in their approach. I was just thinking why people behave in such a way.
I have also come across such people in few of my conference/meetings where they try to prove their point strongly. But I look for 2 major things in that.
a) Whether the person who argues has complete information about the concept/idea/matter of discussion.
b) is he just being autocratic in his approach just to prove he is right.
Either People are not being receptive to other’s point of view or
They have failed to learn the art of collaborating and the finishing the work
If each person develops these above 2 qualities (being receptive and collaborating) it could make a difference
People aren’t mind readers and sometimes it’s unfair to expect them to think the way we think. But we can always give them an opportunity to share their point of view
Let’s understand the fact that in process and while arriving at solutions need built-in means of communication with each other
Well I must say we need to listen till they finish saying whatever they want and then we can state our opinion
Avoid sarcasm as much as possible
1 thing I have noticed is people trying to change the way they react, behave or communicate. And its mere waste of energy in doing so.
Last but not the least I would say we are not designed to meet the expectations of all the people in the world.
Create a win-win situation where both people can be happy and fulfilled. A little compromise may be needed.
I often use these words like “I prefer..” , “I believe”, “I need” and these words are very compelling.
I heard this slogan somewhere “life or mind is terrible master and a wonderful slave” either you should have a control over it or you will be made to dance to the tunes of life.
How often we see, people always complain, blame their managers for appraisal ratings
Blame wife/husband for unhappy home lives, blame boyfriend/girlfriend for all the heartbreaks
Blame strangers for some odd reasons, shopkeepers for not giving the change, police for catching you driving without license. But that’s a sad way to live. Who is the victim here??
We expect our partner/boss/strangers to change the way they live speak and react for your life to change. Observe that your life or mind for that matter is controlled by these people.
You’re becoming powerless. Who do you think should be held accountable for whatever happens in life?
Dint clear interviews?? people always Blame it on HR
Flunked exams?? people always Blame it on valuator
Breakups in relationship? people always Blame it on partner.
Well actually the better person to talk about problems in in your relationships is the person whom you’re in relation with.
Let’s analyze a little more and check if anything could have been done from our end which could have turned the things around and life would be still better?
And of course there will be situations where your partner has done something wrong
Well I believe life’s greatest difficulties are actually life’s biggest blessings,
As they make you stronger enough to face situations like this
While writing this post I remember the song sung by Akon “Blame it on Me”
Well to conclude.. lets understand that when you play blame games you’re really saying that they’ve shaped your destiny and are the cause of your current conditions.
Imagine a scenario where you do transaction with bank. The transaction is incomplete or unsuccessful.
But the amount is been debited from your account. You approach bank and they say they will credit it within certain time.
You wait and wait but that doesn’t happen. Officials don’t respond properly and they procrastinate the things. What do you do??
I have experienced a similar trouble closing one of the Demat account.
it took 6 whole months for them to do it while expected timeline was 7 days.
And what I did was file a complaint against them to Ombudsmen.
And matter was solved within next 15 days.
The different scenarios which I have heard are:• Loss of cheque from Cheque drop box
• Closing your account without providing any prior information or reason
• Delay in the services
• rejecting the loan without proper justification or reason
• misbehaving with customers.
This can be done by filing a complaint online.
Enter details and you can upload any supporting documents
Altogether a good initiative atleast I can say.
I have 1 last thing to tell . I have heard people complaining about recovering loans from guarantor .
Bank has the full right to recover loan from guarantor when intended person is unable to pay and you can’t file a complaint against this.
Some people I know had to wait for a longer time even from ombudsmen but still they have been benefitted finally.
Well filing of complaint doesn’t cost anything. It will take minimal effort and time
So why not make use of it. But people have to have a little patience.
2 days back I was asked by a friend to transfer a little amount to his account for an emergency Problem he faced.
I was in a conference and his account no was also not added as a beneficiary .
However I could have added his account no. but it would take 16 hrs approx. for NEFT TRANSFER.
I couldn’t go out also to make CARD TO CARD transaction and I was helpless.
Hope he hasn’t misunderstood me. But then I was looking for faster money transfer option and I found an alternative option recently.(may be others also know that)
Its called Inter bank Mobile Payment service.
You can transfer the funds thru
A) SMS b)Mobile App
B) Mobile App
You need to have is UNIQUE ID called MMID for both the both parties
MMID can be obtained from ATM BY selecting IMPS option ->mobile Registration and providing ur mobile number.
You don’t need to add beneficiary .
If you are using Mobile App u have to choose transfer funder option->
Enter the MMID and mobile no. of the payee.
Enter the amount and MPIN and submit.
Money will be transferred instantaneously. Within a minute.
Well. If you are using SMS based service u don’t even need GPRS. Moreover these services do not take account no. as input.
Bank details which make use of this service are listed in this link http://www.npci.org.in/bankmember.aspx
People who have already used it can provide more info on this.
It definitely will make transfer of fund faster and no rocket science is required here.