“No” is a complicated word

We all have faced a situation where we dint wanted to do some particular work but we say “Yes” instead of “NO” .

Imagine your relatives /friends forcing you to buy insurance product which u dint wanted to buy you feel you r adequately insured but just because they are successful in convincing  you to buy that product You say yes.

I also got a call from by stock brokerage firm to trade into equities with his recommended stock & I choose my asset classes according to my investment needs and that point of time i wasn’t requiring to  trade into stocks. I kept telling all the reasons and he kept negotiating. Finally I gracefully Said “No”.

These agents/RM’s are pressurized by their organization to meet target and they might in the do or die situation when their jobs are at stake.

And it may happen you end up being a victim.

Remember the calls u would get from some bank convincing u to take personal loans. are we aware of Interest that is levied ?are u really in need of urgent cash and no other investments made so far meets your needs.?

Remember the calls from Customer care representative of a mobile network service provider to activate some service which u actually dint wish to but u end up activating it just because he was successful in convincing you.

Forget these. Remember kids or wife convincing you to purchase some or the other items while shopping which u feel is not necessary at that point of time.u really wanted to say “No” but u couldn’t say it and finally u buy it.

I have also heard of few cases where ppl agree to help their friends relatives by becoming guarenteer For their loan as, they want someone from the city itself and ask you to just give your PAN Card or any other documents as a proof. You can’t say NO. Months and years pass on and then when the time comes if they couldn’t repay the loan and eventually if u become a defaulter u would land into trouble.

even while choosing a career.. especially I have observed with students choosing engineering. They wanted to specialize in some branch of their choice and because their parents wants them to take up some other branch they will take that and then suffer.

Another example of frequently observed thing is someone getting committed in a relationship. They are actually not ready for it . but eventually their partner is successful in convincing them to say yes when all they wanted to say is “No”

Finally all they say is We are here to give you best service, please be kind and think about it . you wont get this offer anywhere else.you finally accept it and then regret wish I could have said “No”


He isn’t what we expect

I read a blog yesterday which emphasized on the people management and it all revolved around handling people who are little aggressive enough in their approach. I was just thinking why people behave in such a way.

I have also come across such people in few of my conference/meetings where they try to prove their point strongly. But I look for 2 major things in that.

a) Whether the person who argues has complete information about the concept/idea/matter of discussion.

b) is he just being autocratic in his approach just to prove he is right.


Either People are not being receptive to other’s point of view or

They have failed to learn the art of collaborating and the finishing the work

If each person develops these above 2 qualities (being receptive and collaborating) it could make a difference

People aren’t mind readers and sometimes it’s unfair to expect them to think the way we think. But we can always give them an opportunity to share their point of view

Let’s understand the fact that in process and while arriving at solutions need built-in means of communication with each other

Well I must say we need to listen till they finish saying whatever they want and then we can state our opinion

Avoid sarcasm as much as possible

1 thing I have noticed is people trying to change the way they react, behave or communicate. And its mere waste of energy in doing so.

Last but not the least I would say we are not designed to meet the expectations of all the people in the world.

Create a win-win situation where both people can be happy and fulfilled. A little compromise may be needed.

I often use these words like “I prefer..”  , “I believe”, “I need” and these words are very compelling.