Akhila wrote a thought provoking post asking “why are we not open to all”
im just making an attempt to present my thoughts on it
we all keep observing people’s behavior and we are many a time aware of people’s acceptance level with whom we keep interacting with
now when we find the acceptance level of other’s is low, may be we hold back from sharing it with them . this has happened with me too .
now we also assume things like what would the opposite person reaction may be .
if we feel the reaction may not be in our favor , again we hold back
it might also depend on our acceptance level, when the opposite person’s views are not inline with ours we may not like it sometimes, we may fall into heated up arguments and thus to avoid that we do not open up ourselves with certain people
we may many a times feel, what if my ideas are not convincing enough for others to consider it as a game changing idea
thus we choose a few people where we open up more and share our thoughts.
Its a gloomy cold night
I see your love faded away
From my heart, away from my sight
The dreams we shared, Oh Love!!
and the promises so right
I see your smile, Oh No
Faded away from my sight
i had been to nearby shop to purchase some cloths and i observed argument happening between customer and shopkeeper .what saddened me was the lady was crying and went back asking for apology . i rarely see customers apologizing a shopkeeper. while i asked the shop owner what had just happened , he told me something that really was hurting . how ill-informed and insensitive people can be ? i thought.
he said the lady who just left crying had come to purchase something and while transferring the bill amount via debit card the transaction had failed . amount had debited from her account but hadn’t reached the shop owner’s account .
her husband started abusing her over the phone for selecting such a shop to transact.
the shopkeeper tried his best by convincing that it would take 24 hrs to refund by the bank and he would assure that . if at all the refund has not been made by the bank he would personally go to bank and verify it . he even extracted transaction history to assure the customer but customer’s husband did not accept this and started scolding and abusing her wife.
what hurt me was lady said that her husband would beat her up for this and in the worst case wouldn’t let her in home if she failed to get it refunded immediately.
finally shopkeeper payed her via PAYTM and said forget about the money, money can be gained again. be safe with your husband(bill amount was 1000 INR) .
such terrible people like her husband do exit.
he neither had knowledge about internet banking ,nor had any patience to listen or wait for 24 hrs .
he dint even have humanity to treat his wife like that . if people dont respect their own family members especially ladies , who are they going to respect.
via Daily Prompt: Vigor
Many a time people talk a lot about physical strength but its the mental strength that can be a reason to finish an extremely tough , critical , Himalayan task . don’t you agree?
See Nick Vujicic. learn from his life . he is a man with no limbs no arms . yet so powerful and has been a wonderful motivational speaker now.
he was an easy target for bullies . now he believed in his own vigor . he says never let bullies define who you are as a person . that’s your weakness. you should define yourself and no bully would get the power to weaken you.
he even goes on to say that he even had made suicidal attempts , but it was his mental strength he chose to live the life with vigor and now he is happy to make that decision for he is able to get enormous love from his wife n kid which otherwise wouldn’t have been possible .
Believe you are here to do something tremendous , spectacular . believe you got most amazing thing in life . a beautiful body and beautiful heart .
isn’t it enough to live a extraordinary life .
to complete the task you were assigned for by the nature with vigor .
I felt inspired while reading this book called “Stand Strong”
from last couple of months, I feel I have been downed in the valley of flaws.
Lots of negativity surrounds me.
I was so contaminated by the sick thoughts of few people around me
But then I felt … when life is all about DIY (Do It yourself) strategies
Why give someone else power to choose the way I be happy?
Why blame someone and become weaker.
Yes, I understand some people do not understand the language of politeness
But why react in an aggressive manner and shoot up my blood pressure and give them a reason to ridicule me
Let me take control of my emotions, my life and be powerful.
Time and again it has happened that we start expecting much when we fall in a relationship
Now here is a things which I observed which can lead to a hole in the ship of relationship
People want their partners to change, she expects him to think like she do and he expect her to feel and behave in a way he like her to. I’m sorry guys this doesn’t work like this. May be they need a large amount of acceptance over here.
Sometimes an ugly feeling may creep in Ur mind that if she/he doesn’t like the way I am then why did he/she accept me initially. what I say is do not enforce a change in a behavior or a thought process of your partner until it is for betterment and your partner understand it and agrees to it .
Both have their own principles in life they follow they believe in different thought process.
But in marriages and relationships, these are to be share with each other. See if these can work in situation where you both need to make strong decisions.
Ok I leave you with this thought for today
“Stop blaming others. Change is a part of life and let it start with you”D
Is it not amazing that we get connected in someway or the other here in WP.
Best thing about WordPress is its always a healthy communication that takes place when you share your thoughts here .
i have hardly seen anyone having cold war of words here .
i like it when people support or motivate each other to make use of ones potential to max.
if this continues i’m sure world would be more beautiful ..
i have made few connections here.. and each one is spectacularly talented enough. few have moved my soul, few have inspired me , few have given great information about various things and few have taught me life lessons ..
i wanted to take this opportunity to thank them all and i wish we stay connected..forever
it would be unfair if i take few names and leave few.. but the respect and love i have for them deep in my heart is enormous and eternal..
i’m more than happy today. Hope you also have made connections which makes you feel life is worthwhile. if you have so, Please share .
I love them and i got much love, i earned respect ; i endure the betrayal of false friends AND MADE some REAL FRIEND HERE ; i received much appreciation ,guidance and blessings, i got to know one’s life’s insights and we mutually showed empathy, we promised to walk together in the journey —is this not called a step closer to success.
PS: I know this isn’t my style to express the gratitude.. but give me sometime.. i will come back with a much better way..